There is nothing like “overnight success”. Any overnight success is a complete façade. When you see someone who has a lot of knowledge, they learned it over time. Someone who has a lot of skills developed them over time; someone who has done a lot accomplished it over time and someone who has a lot of money earned it over time.
Those who have made it in life or wish to make it in life go through principles, make decisions and real life sacrifices to get there, most especially, hard work. Looking to succeed? Here’s a free tip: It takes time. There’s no need to rush or be in a hurry, growth is a slow but steady process.
Here are some pointers you need in your journey to success:
- It’s never as good as you think it will be: Relishing the anticipation or idea of a desired outcome is generally more satisfying than the outcome itself. Once we get what we want – whether it’s wealth, health, or excellent relationships - we adapt and the excitement fades. Often, the experiences we’re seeking end up being underwhelming and even disappointing. Until you appreciate what you currently have, more won’t make your life better.
- It’s never as bad as you think it will be: The longer you procrastinate or avoid doing something, the more painful it become, in your thought. However, once you take action, the discomfort is far less severe than you imagined. Even to extremely difficult things, humans adapt. The problem with dread and fear is that it holds people back from taking on big challenges. What you will find — no matter how big or small the challenge — is that you will adapt to it. When you consciously adapt to enormous stress, you evolve.
- There is no way to happiness: “There is no way to happiness — happiness is the way.” — Thich Nhat Hanh. Most people believe they must first have something (e.g., money, time, or love) before they can do what they want to do Paradoxically, this “have — do — be” paradigm must actually be reversed to experience happiness, success, or anything else you desire. First be whatever it is you want to be then start doing things from this space of being. Almost immediately, what you are doing will bring about the things you want to have. We attract into our lives what we are.
- You have enough already: If you appreciate what you already have, then more will be a good thing in your life. If you feel the need to have more to compensate for something missing in your life, you’ll always be left wanting — no matter how much you acquire or achieve.
- You have every advantage to succeed: When we judge our situation as worse than someone else’s; we are ignorantly and incorrectly saying, “You’ve got it easy. Success should come easy to you because you haven’t had to deal with what I’ve gone through.” This paradigm has formally become known as the victim mentality, and it generally leads to feelings of entitlement. The world owes you nothing. However, the world has also given you everything you need. The truth is, you have every advantage in the world to succeed. And by believing this you’ll feel an enormous weight of responsibility to yourself and the world.
- Competition is the enemy: Competing with others leads people to spend every day of their lives pursuing goals that aren’t really their own. Competition is extremely costly to maximum product reach and wealth creation. It becomes a battle of who can slightly out-do the other for cheaper and cheaper. It’s a race to the bottom for all parties involved. Instead of trying to compete with other people or businesses, it’s better to do something completely novel or to focus on a tightly defined niche. Once you’ve established yourself as an authority over something, you can set your own terms - rather than reactively responding to the competition. Thus, you want to monopolize the space in which you create value.
- You can’t have it all: Every decision has an opportunity cost. When you choose one thing, you simultaneously don’t choose several others. When someone says you can have it all, they are lying. They are almost certainly not practicing what they preach and are trying to sell you on something. The truth is, you don’t want it all. And even if you did, reality simply doesn’t work that way. We all need to choose what matters most to us, and own that. If we attempt to be everything, we’ll end up being nothing. Internal conflict is hell.
- Never forget where you came from: It’s easy when you achieve any level of success to believe you are solely responsible for that success. It’s easy to forget where you came from and all the sacrifices other people have made to get you where you are. Burn all your bridges and you’ll have no human connection left. In that internal cave of isolation, you’ll lose your mind and identity, becoming a person you never intended to be. Humility, gratitude, and recognition of your blessings keep your success in proper perspective.
- You earn as much money as you want to: Most people “say” they want to be successful. But if they really wanted to, they’d be successful. Life is a matter of priority and decision. And when it comes to money — in a free-market economy — you can make as much money as you choose. The question is; how much money do you really want to make? In the book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill invites readers to write down the amount of money they want to make, and to put a timeline on it. This single act will challenge you to think and act in new ways to create the future of your wanting.
- Your vision of who you want to be is your greatest asset: “Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe.” — Oprah Winfrey. No matter where you are right now, you can have any future you want. But one thing is for certain, what you plant you must harvest, plant with intention. Mental creation always precedes physical creation. The blueprint you design in your head becomes the life you build.